MOTIVATIONAL: Words of Sword?

"Soft words turns away wrath, but harsh words stirs up anger"...

Sometimes I try to figure out how ridiculous our minds could get when we ascribe all the wrongs to the devil. Agree with me or not, the truth is that WE ARE THE DEVIL! The vices, the negatives, the ills, the evils we have today is caused by US. And how is that possible, what we say, our words. Just as the quote said earlier, a soft word turns away wrath, meaning when a word is spoken in a friendly and humanly manner, there'd be no room for vices and ills that we have in the world today. Many of us are TOO loose with our tongues on others, we are not CAUTIOUS and CONSCIOUS of the things we say concerning others. The negatives that people end up engaging themselves into are due to our loose, bad and unencouraging words that we speak to them. Under the Philosophy of Frustration, it is being triggered by external factors. The suiciders, the kidnappers, the thieves, the robbers we have today, ended up in those vices as a result of our words emitting from our lips. When we see a young man who is struggling with life to earn himself a living, we end up castigating him, that he's useless, his mates are millionaires and he should go and do what his friends are doing ... And the young man eventually listened to you, then he got an invitation for a very lucrative job; arm robbery, then he joins, he's been caught by the long arms of the law, then you saw him being displayed as a suspect, then you will end up saying, "ah ehya, see this young man, I was advising him o to be steadfast in his meagre earnings, but look at him now, he turned into arm robbery and he's destiny is shattered".... Whereas, sometime ago you were the one who was castigating him, reminding him how useless he is.... Devil is not in hell, he's here on earth, and he's YOU! YOU ARE THE DEVIL!... If you never had spoken those words to him, his frustration wouldn't have been so quick to hit the red... If we can't be an eraser for someone's pains, then we shouldn't be the pencil to write their pains. If you have no good words to encourage someone, then don't speak at all. Yes, I know you'll say that, Shebi it's him that want to turn to that, yes you're right, but if I may ask you, is it human and godly for you to be PART of the reasons such a man ended up into those negatives. Sometimes those diminishing words could swerve some hopeful minds away from believing.

She's young and beautiful, vibrant and brilliant, she's trying to make a living out of life, she's done almost all she could, but her efforts is cutting no ice. Then you as a friend, or family, decided to give her encouragement with your words, reminding her that she had a first class, she was the best student in her class both in secondary and tertiary schools, but yet her first class is only buying her 2 cups of garri, #20 sugar and #20 groundnut, your words was helping her to remember that, Jenny that came out with just an ordinary pass is working in Abuja with The Ministry of Finance. Also that Flora who dropped out at 300 level because she was unable to cope with the Academics demands owns two fabric industries one in Lagos, the other in Portharcourt and that she's presently in the state. She considered and assessed all your facts and had a meaningful conclusion and she made up her mind to be like Jenny and Flora, she finally got a travelling opportunity just to be like Flora who is in the state. She knew she had to give her body in exchange, she was caught with drugs, she was displayed on the National T.V, you saw her, and you said, ah, what has this girl done to herself, she just wasted her brilliancy, she use to be the best student in my class, she's a first class graduate, how could she have ended up to be a prostitute and drug baron... What a rhetoric question! My dear, hell is on the loose, Devil is on the run... You need to be caught... YOU ARE THE DEVIL! She never wanted going into vices but your harsh words stirred her up. Now you blame her for what she's become? Even though she must have been thinking of that, must your words serve as the accelerator? What if you had spoken otherwise, would she not have been encouraged? Would she not have been motivated? Would she have had the sheer thought of pushing drugs for dohs? Would she have ended up opening her legs for not men but dogs? Would she?

He's in his twenties, an undergraduate in an affordable university. He's trying to cope with his studies, yes he's not that good with books, he's struggling just for him to have a certificate, at least let me get a pass than not to go to school at all... He's trying all his possible best not to drop out. There you are, his own family, his own blood, his brother, his sister, his mother, his father, they sent you his result from school, you saw how bad his result was, you didn't even allow him to come home, you've called him on the phone, your anger poured this out "have you seen your results? What kind of a child/brother are you, you're good for nothing, brain you no get, smartness, zero! You are useless, we've been wasting our money on you, idiot, useless boy, I wonder where your mother picked you from", then you hung up... Just right about the same time, the useless boy bursted into a pool of tears, uncontrollable wailing, he felt disappointed, he felt ashamed, if his own family could say that to him, then the words from people outside cannot move his mountain, trust me! Then this young man, he felt you're right, that he's good for nothing, yes he attested to the fact that he's a moron that you called him, then he became worrier with your words that says you've been wasting your money on him, then he felt he should help, he felt he should relieve you of the financial burden, he felt you should invest that money into something more meaningful, then he looked for a rope, tied it to his ceiling fan and tied it round his neck... Then he wrote a goodbye letter specially for you, and told you how much he loves you... Then you were called on the phone that your son/brother has committed suicide, you wept your eyes became swollen, you cried your life out, and you were asking God why he took him away... Thought they said Devil's humble abode is HELL... So what are you doing here? YOU ARE THE DEVIL, you paid for the keke Napepe that conveyed him to the life beyond, to the land of no return! If you never reminded him that he's not smart, maybe he wouldn't have thought of taking that acid, if you never reminded him that he's a dummy, a moron and a dullard, maybe his thoughts would never have struck getting a rope. If you never reminded him that he's not putting into good use all the money you've been spending on his education, maybe he would never have thought of helping you to be permanently saving such money by letting you be eternally.

Our words carry strength, but we don't know. Things we say to people is of two side effects, it could be positive or negative. Why making yours be more of the negative? Even if you don't know how to make the positive words, don't you think it's just far better to shut up? If you know you don't know how to inspire, why can't you discard your words so that tomorrow it won't backfire. Why make your words for others to hurt? Why make your words for others to burn? Why make your words for others to stir up anger?

Why make your words for others to strike like a thunder? Why make your words for others to Slay? Why make your words for others to shatter and scatter? Why make your words for others to cause rage, chaos, freight, fear and depression? Why make your words for others to cause them suppression? Why make your words for others to cause frustration? Why make your words for others to cause inferiority complex? Why make your words for others to cause unhappiness? Why make your words for others to cause violence?

Yes not everybody has got the power of words... But everyone has got the power of silence... Make use of yours, it's your 6th sense organ!
Even if someone has come to you for help, you don't need to remind him of his historical background, just because he has requested for your help, you don't have to slay them with your hurting words before you'd realise it's time for you to help them.

When someone is friendly, free and playful, you don't have to eat them up with the reasons why they are like that... You don't have to rebuff them, you don't know if they do that just to run away from their unencouraging situation, unavoidable circumstances...

When a child is academically not sounding, you don't have to spell it out... Just encourage them.
You don't have to start comparing yourself with them... Was I this, was I that... For the fact that you weren't doesn't mean they should take the same route you took... For the fact that you made all your grades at once, doesn't mean you should skin them if they don't. For the fact that your friend's son is a Regional Manager for a multimillion Naira telecommunication company with just a PASS, doesn't mean that your son or brother should be the overall manager of the telecommunication company with his own 1st class. Never use yourself to set the norms for others, nor use others to set the norm for that your friend, your child, or your colleague.
Remember, a soft word sooth the heart, but a harsh word evoke a troubled heart!
When you wrongfully place your WORDS... This is what happens, the S after D move four places to the front to form SWORD, and what is the function of a sword? It slays, it kills, it pierces the heart!

DON'T BE MEAN WITH YOUR WORDS, though they might seem harmless to you, but it may be harmful to others.
Be kind with your words... Choose your words rightly!

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